Are you a helicopter parent? Here’s how to recognize the signs and some better than perfect ways to be an involved parent without hovering.
Do you know the top 5 signs of Helicopter Parenting? In my recent article published by MindBodyGreen.com, I’m sharing how to recognize whether you might be an overprotective, overly involved parent, along with some Better Than Perfect ways to parent without hovering.
If you recognize excessive parenting practices in your parent/child relationship, such as:
- Talking to his/her teacher more than once a month
- Breaking up his/her fights
- Doing his/her homework
- Refusing to let him/her fail
- Inflating his/her self-worth
and struggle with finding a balance between supporting your child, and simultaneously helping to foster his/her independence, you should know that you’re not a bad parent…you just need to stop hovering and show your child correct behaviors within healthy boundaries.
Better Than Perfect Ways to Help Your Child Develop, Learn and Grow
- Be mindful of your child’s challenges and teach him or her to be assertive, to ask the teacher about any issues or questions that arise. This empowers your child rather than fostering overreliance on you.
- Let your child learn the inevitable challenges of communicating with others, which includes disagreements. The ability to discuss differences and develop a win-win plan is an extremely useful tool for your child’s relationships, now and in the future.
- Remember: you already passed sixth grade. Your daughter has not. You must let her and know that she can.
- Let your child stumble a little, while making sure he or she is safe. Pushing through and learning from mistakes develop resilience, perseverance and grit – all contributors to preparing for success.
- Resist telling your child with excessive frequency how special he is, how talented she is. This can lead to an inflated sense of self-worth and feelings of entitlement. Not only are entitled individuals tough to be with, but they are also extremely unhappy and have difficulty cultivating strong relationships.
Helicopter parenting is just another term for micromanaging a child’s life. It’s important for parents to find the balance between loving and supporting their children, and smothering and controlling them.
Why do you think you might be a helicopter parent? Share with me below. And don’t forget, Better Than Perfect parenting is a skill you can easily learn!