- Do you often feel anxious or fearful?
- Do you ever feel overwhelmed with worry?
- Do you often experience restlessness or agitation?
- Do you find yourself easily irritable?
- Do you have problems concentrating because your mind is racing about all the things you should do or the bad things that could happen?
- Do you have problems sleeping, despite being exhausted?
- Do you experience physical symptoms, such as GI distress, tense muscles or rapid heart rate?
- Do you feel stressed out most of the time?
If so, you may be suffering from anxiety.
And, you are in good company. Research shows that up to 33.7% of the population are affected by an anxiety disorder during their lifetime.
Anxiety can include panic disorders, agoraphobia, generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). Anxiety can adversely impact your entire life including:
- Emotional health: with increased stress and increased risk of comorbidity, especially depression
- Mental focus: difficulty concentrating, reduce memory
- Physical health: increased muscle tension, unexplained physical symptoms, chronic pain, GI problems, insomnia, increased use of food or alcohol or drugs to try to self-medicate
- Work: Not advancing because you don’t put yourself in situations that cause you fear and, at the same time, could help you progress
- Relationships: Increased irritability with friends and loved ones
These are just a few examples of the detrimental effects of anxiety.
That is bad news.
The good news is that anxiety can be treated. And cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) has been shown time and time again in the research to be an extremely effective treatment.
One way to learn CBT is through self-help books. Why? Many offer a better understanding of what anxiety is, the role of your brain and how thoughts can take over. They also can offer an explanation regarding why some coping strategies may seem to help in the short-term but are actually more detrimental in the long-term (such as avoidance).
What self-help books are best? Well, Amy Capetta with Good Housekeeping wrote a wonderful article entitled These Are The Best Books for People With Anxiety, According to Psychologists.
And I am honored that my book was included.
Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love –By Elizabeth Lombardo, Ph.D.
Much of our anxiety is caused by a fear of failing or messing up. While some may view perfectionism as resulting in a neat junk drawer, it is actually much deeper than that. Perfectionism is an all-or-nothing, perfect-or-failure, perfect-or-why-even-try mentality that is based in a fear of being a failure. This book breaks down what perfectionism is, how you can keep the good parts of perfectionism (such as striving for excellence) and get rid of the unfavorable parts (feeling anxious because you never feel good enough). When you live a Better Than Perfect life, you no longer worry about what might happen and create a life you truly love.
With the increasing numbers of people with anxiety continue to climb, people are starting to look for new ways to calm their nerves. As I share in the article- books are great tools to use when you find yourself looking for help. Not only are they great tools for you to put towards your life but having a physical book to go back to, make notes in and practice will change your life.
I also created content on Youtube about Better Than Perfect | 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love. In the video, I show what is one of the main causes of Anxiety and who causes it. You will never guess who!
It is so courageous to understand that you might be affected by anxiety and are looking for new ways to change your life. A lot of people like to hide anxiety in fear of being mistreated or not feeling understood. Thankfully we are in a time where it is normal to talk about what’s affecting us. There are so many articles, books, classes, forums, courses, and coaches that help with this that there is no way to feel alone in this.
If you want to read my book on perfectionism and anxiety I would be honored. I would love to be a part of your journey in any way I can. The link for Better Than Perfect is here.
If you or anyone else you know is affected by anxiety & depression please understand that there is help out there. Head over to my social media pages for uplifting talks and posts. Join the conversation.