While working with a client who was trying to deal with a botched surgery, she said, “I feel like I am mourning the death of the way my life used to be.” And I thought “YES, you are.”
This particular client had suffered from chronic pain for 3 years after a surgeon had accidentally sliced a nerve during what was supposed to be a routine operation. Since then she had lived with chronic, and often debilitating, pain.
And, everyday there was a theme in her head “If only he had not cut my nerve…” This thinking kept her in the past and prevented her form moving on.
Forgiveness requires that we mourn the loss of the life we had or expected to have.
We need to go through all the stages of:
Here is an article I wrote on just that topic and how it specifically relates to relationships:
I hope it is helpful to you as you go through your journey of forgiveness.
Forgive the past and you will become an even happier you!