People often ask me, “How can I be happy when other people do things that upset me?”
Well, one response is that you have the choice when it comes to how you interpret what other people do. If someone says something unkind you can accept it or reject it.
However, other times you may want to address the situation at hand by speaking up.
One of the examples she offered was how to handle a coworker who is spreading rumors about you.
Certainly this can be an incredibly upsetting situation. While some may stew and boil inside (react in a passive manner), others may lash out and yell at the co-worker (be aggressive). Still others may choose a more passive aggressive approach by, for example, spreading her own rumors about the coworker. None of these three approaches is helpful, or even healthy.
The best thing to do is be assertive: speak up for yourself while still being respectful towards others.
In this specific incident, try finding your coworker when she is alone and ask “Hey do you have a minute to speak?” Assuming she says “yes,” then try saying something like, “I have heard that there are some rumors going around about me that X. As you can imagine, that is upsetting to me because it is not true.
Assertiveness is an important part of The Happiness Prescription. Be respectful while sticking up for yourself and you will be an even happier you!