Making mistakes is actually part of being a good mom. Surprised? Here’s why a healthy attitude makes any mom better than perfect.
Do you often feel like you’re just not measuring up?
There will always be “what if” questions when it comes to being a good mom. Whether you’re concerned about pregnancy health, how to manage a toddler or issues with a teenager, being a mom can be challenging.
Where do you turn for help?
In this era of technology, you may be getting too much information from too many sources. And information overload usually doesn’t make things any better for moms who are already doubting themselves.
There is no such thing as a perfect mother, so don’t spend your time and energy on trying to be one.
A healthy attitude makes all the difference between being a good mom and being a mom who thinks that she has to be perfect. Be happy with being you and you’ll be the mom your family needs.
12 Mistakes You Might Be Making As a Mom and Tips for a Better, Healthier Attitude
- Relying on your smartphone. Don’t believe everything you see and read on the Internet. Get your primary information from your doctor and only search for what you need to know.
- Striving to be perfect. Allow yourself to learn from your mistakes and move on with doing the best you can.
- Forgetting to be grateful. A great way for moms to de-stress is to focus on gratitude. Gratitude reduces the stress centers in the brain. Whether you’re grateful for your baby, your partner, or for having the time to take a nap, think about what you’re grateful for and write it down each day.
- Worrying too much. Worrying only increases your stress. It makes your emotions more intense and takes a toll on you physically.
- Lacking exercise. According to a study in the journal Psychology and Health, exercise can boost your mood, and a better mood makes for a better attitude. Remember, while working out 30 minutes most days is best, even a brisk walk can help if the gym doesn’t fit into your schedule.
- Focusing on fear. Fears often stem from experiences that you’ve had or that you’ve heard repeatedly. One way to rid fears is to imagine them as something else (like dust bunnies under your bed, for instance) that you can easily sweep away.
- Transferring tension. Stress hormones can change the biochemistry of your body. If you’re pregnant, you don’t want to transfer stress to your baby, you want your baby to be in an environment of love. If you’re dealing with an older child, a loving touch can transfer your calm during a tense situation.
- Losing your center. Relaxation and meditation can help you focus your attention on the here and now, keeping you centered. Studies seem to indicate that meditation may even help with morning sickness during pregnancy.
- Taking too much advice. Other people may be giving you advice. While it’s because they care, it can also be stressing you out more than you realize. You can acknowledge it and thank them, but ultimately making your own decision is better for your family.
- Expecting too much. You hope to do everything right as a mom, but it’s not always going to happen. You can have a plan, but don’t sweat it when it doesn’t go perfectly. A healthy attitude allows you to be flexible and accept that a different outcome is also ok.
- Getting hung up. Instead of getting hung up on things like weight gain, stretch marks, and varicose veins, recognize that what matters is how you react to these and other things going on in your life. You may not have control over it, but you always have control over your emotional reaction, your attitude. Change what you can and let the rest go.
- Overthinking. If you’re becoming a mom for the first time, you might be worried about what it might mean to your career, your relationship with your partner, or any number of things that may change. No woman can know in advance the full impact of being a mom. Be true to who you are and focus only on what’s important in your life at this moment and what you want at this time. The rest will fall into place.
What’s your idea of the perfect mom and how have you been trying to ‘measure up’? Share it with me in the comments below. Then, if you’re ready to end the stress of trying to measure up, take my quick Perfectionist Self-Assessment. Discover what’s so amazing about YOU – and how to truly enjoy it!