Want to know something? I have missed you LIKE CRAZY!
Maybe you hadn’t noticed that I have been MIA (and I promise not to let that hurt my feelings… too much )
Have been pretty much out of web existence for over 3 months until just recently.
Here’s what happened. It all started off great: my husband, daughters and I went down to Puerto Rico to get some quality family time. We were so excited to soak up the sun (after our SPF was applied), play in the water, go for walks in the beach, sleep in and enjoy some leisurely meals.
But plans don’t always go as we want, do they?
Instead of a relaxing vacation, we ended up dealing with a very sick husband. I will spare you the details, but let’s just say he was in the hospital for over 80 days and, while home now, is still healing.
As you can imagine when something major like this happens, I focused on my family and had to put my passions (what others call “work”) on the back burner.
But now I am BACK- and so incredibly grateful to be so.
Here’s a video I did on Facebook about it:
So happy to be back! 3 Months away from Facebook. Did I forget how to get a good internet connection? Oh welll- #BetterThanPerfect 🙂
Posted by Dr. Elizabeth Lombardo on Tuesday, June 20, 2017
My desire is to support and encourage you to be the best possible you, to live the best possible life. Thank you for allowing me to be on the journey with you.
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Did you know that Monday was International Day of Happiness?
The United Nations decreed March 20 as that day that we, across the globe, celebrate and encourage happiness.
For some, focusing on “being happy” may seem childish (“sure, it is nice to focus on happiness, but this is the real world, with real problems”).
In reality, happiness is a key channel to making significant changes in the world.
You see, while people often think that being healthier, in a good relationship or successful will bring them more happiness, the opposite is actually true.
Not that they will make you unhappy, but rather that, instead of these things causing happiness, happiness actually causes them.
I wrote about this in my column on Psychology Today. Click here to read the article.
When you are happier, your body is healthier. It experiences less stress. And we know that a stressed body gets sick more easily, tends to put on unwanted pounds, has more pain and has more problems sleeping.
When you are happier, you are more focused on the positive- in life and in others. So, you are more likely to be happy in relationships- whether it be with a significant other, your children or friends. I don’t know about you, but when I am unhappy and stressed out, I am not the easiest person to be around. But when we are happier ourselves, that happiness tends to spread into our interactions with others.
And when you are happier, the research shows, you are more likely to be successful. For example, happier people are 40% more likely to get promoted. They focus more on solving problems, rather than being a victim to circumstances. For those in sales, happier people outsell their unhappy counterparts by 37%.
So there are lots of reasons to be happier.
How can you be happier? There are lots of ways. One great way is to associate with positive people and positive conversations. That means stay away from negative Nellies and the depressing news.
Instead, why not hop on over to our Facebook community where we can connect? There you will receive a dose (or two) of happiness every day?
You deserve happiness, and I want to help you achieve it.
This past week, most of the US experienced an hour time change for Daylight’s Savings, which meant “losing” an hour.
Often this hour shows up in an hour less of sleep.
And yet, losing an hour of sleep can have some pretty nasty consequences, like feeling more irritable, depressed and stressed. Yuck!
In honor of World Sleep Day (which comes after Daylight’s Saving’s weekend), I wrote an article for my column at Psychology Today called “Sleeping to the Top (of Your Game).
No, this is not about inappropriate relationships but rather about how you can get a good night’s sleep.
Look, if you want to:
- Have less stress
- Get more stuff done in less time
- Have better relationships
- Boost your mood
- Lose weight
- Have less aches and pains
- Remember more
- And be happier
Then getting better sleep may be just want you need.
Click here to read the article.
And get a good night’s sleep 🙂
No, that doesn’t mean you should procrastinate all week.
Instead, it is a time to reflect on how putting things off impacts your life. And then take steps to make some changes, if they are needed.
Ever wonder why people procrastinate? I had a client last week who told me she avoids certain tasks at work, like calling a difficult customer, because, as she put it, “I am lazy.”
“Nope,” I told her. “I don’t think so.”
This woman is not lazy. She is stressed. And, she is experiencing what psychologists call task aversion, which seems to be the biggest contributor to procrastination.
When people view a task in an unpleasant manner (“It will be tough, boring, painful…”), they are more likely to put it off.
Can you relate? When you think about those projects you have avoided doing- maybe related to work, your health, your home- what goes through your mind?
Probably something like “Ugh! That will be horrible to do.” And so you, instead, choose to do something that seems less noxious or unpleasant. That makes sense. But it is not always helpful in the long run.
One way to overcome procrastination is to focus on your “why”- what are the benefits of actually doing this task. For example, if it is an exercise program you have been avoiding, focus on how exercising will help you have more positive energy, give you a boost of self-esteem and serve as a great role model for your children.
If you have been putting off cleaning out a closet, imagine walking into the closet when it is de-cluttered and how good that feels to you. And consider how much money you will make by selling the items on eBay or how those in need will feel when they receive these items as donations.
I wrote about this in my newest article for Psychology Today called “11 Tips to Overcome Procrastination”. So if you want more ideas on how you can take control of your procrastinating, head on over there.
Stop beating yourself up for procrastination and start taking (even baby) steps in the right direction.
You can do it!
And, as always, our Facebook community is here to assist you, so make sure you have joined this group for daily inspirations and tips for creating the life you love!