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Imagine yourself…

…messing up during a big presentation.

…blowing the job interview.

…watching the project you worked so hard on go up in smoke.

Just picturing any one of those scenarios can make our pulses rise and our stomachs fall. This is because we, as humans, dread failure. The anticipation of it can lead to stress, anxiety, anger, shame, regret—all of which can get in the way of pursuing the lives we want to lead. Take this: Some people might long for a career boost—a new challenge, a promotion, even starting a business—but the fear of failing keeps them from taking the risks needed to effect that change. So instead they hold back, reluctant to give 100 percent, and others are so paralyzed by fear that they never even try. Embarrassment about failure can bring people to dwell on the details, maybe even berate themselves over the outcome. I think of this as rubbing salt in a wound. It hurts, and it prevents healing. So why not reframe this concept of failure? Read more »

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Hey friends! I’ll be making the radio rounds with my new bestseller Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love on Wed November 19, 2014. I’ll be on live in the AM in New York, Philadelphia and Phoenix and you’ll hear me throughout the week in a bunch of other cities. Here’s a list with stations. Tune in. Tell a friend! Thanks for your awesome support!

Better Than Perfect Radio (All times EST)

LIVE

• PHOENIX KWKM-FM
10:10AM

• NEW YORK WFAS-AM, WGCH-FM
10:20AM DEBBI NIGRO SHOW

• PHILADELPHIA WOND-AM
10:45AM

• NATIONAL  BUSINESS TALK RADIO
11:45AM

Listen for me on the following stations over the next few days:

• NEW YORK, SACRAMENTO WHCR-FM, KDEE-FM ADAMS REPORT

• PORTLAND KLCK-AM, KQCQ/KYYT-FM TALK OF THE GORGE

• BOSTON WBZ-AM  WOMEN’S WATCH

• MINNEAPOLIS KBEM-FM. MORNING SHOW

• NATIONAL SYNDICATED. IT’S YOUR HEALTH

• NASHVILLE WGFX-AM/WKDF-FM

• ATLANTA WALR-FM  WEEKEND PUBLIC AFFAIRS

• NATIONAL SYNDICATED. SOMETHING YOU SHOULD KNOW

• LOUISVILLE & KY STATE WHAS-AM + KY NEWS NETWORK

• SEATTLE KWCC-TV/AM

• NATIONAL & ONLINE  ACHIEVE RADIO A CLOSER LOOK

• REGIONAL AZ-Flagstaff, Phoenix  KZUA-FM MORNING SHOW

• SEATTLE-TACOMA KIXI/KKNW-AM  CHAT WITH WOMEN

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I want you to have a Better Than Perfect holiday!

Listen, like you I wear many hats — coach, author, business owner, wife, mom, daughter and sister. The holiday season is right upon us — Advertisers are making sure that we have plenty of notice!

Most of us equate the season with joy — family, friends, parties, gifts. We have many great memories and look forward to creating more.

Unfortunately, for some, tis (not) to be jolly. The hustle and bustle, self imposed pressure and relationship strife can add layers of stress and the joy into loathing.

Watch my latest segment on Good Day Chicago for some tips to make your holiday Better Than Perfect!

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People have been balancing work and family since the dawn of time. Many of today’s working parents make more money, enjoy more luxury and have access to more resources than ever. But there are new challenges…

As we progress, the hours get longer, kids’ activities grow more frequent and distractions, such as TV, smartphones and social media multiply daily.

I joined ‘The Panel’ on Better TV Show to talk about how you can love your kids, stay in love with your spouse and enjoy your life.

Click the image or here to watch the video! Tell us about your #BetterThanPerfect  balancing act below!

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I originally wrote this for Fast Company

7 WAYS YOUR PERFECTION IS RUINING YOUR WORK (AND WHAT TO DO ABOUT IT) – by Elizabeth Lombardo 

“IN A PERFECT WORLD, WE’D HAVE TIME FOR MEDITATION, AN HOUR OF FITNESS, RISING-STAR CAREERS AND BALANCED FAMILY TIME. BUT THIS IS REALITY.”

How do you define a strong leader?

All leadership–good and bad–starts from within. Overwhelming stress, unresolved issues, and low self-confidence (often displayed as arrogance) increase the likelihood of less-than-optimal leadership. Conversely, humility, courage, and trust (in yourself and others) are ingredients of stellar leadership.

In my coaching practice, I am seeing a growing impediment to effective leadership: Perfectionism.

Perfectionism in the broader sense refers to all-or-nothing thinking. “It needs to be done right (perfect), or else it’s a failure.” “If I mess this up, people will see that I’m in way over my head.” “Since I didn’t make it to the gym today, I might as well forget my diet too and order a pizza.”

Generally, the goal of a perfectionist is good. It’s the pursuit of excellence, the desire to do the best job, the drive to be successful. However, the true motivator for perfectionism is fear. “I need to make enough money in order for my family to be comfortable” is driven by the fear your family will live in poverty because you failed.

Here are the ways perfectionism impacts the top seven elements of effective leadership and what you can do to overcome it…

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In conjunction with the launch of my new book this month, Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love, I’ve written articles on perfectionism for multiple magazines. Here’s my latest for SUCCESS.  Read. Share. Tweet! -E

Is Perfectionism Bringing Down Your Business?
5 tips on how to deal with a perfectionist co-worker

-by Elizabeth Lombardo

Have you ever struggled to work with people who weren’t team players? Maybe they refused to listen to others, dismissed feedback, behaved arrogantly or even refused to do their share of a project?

Take these frustrating examples:
• My boss drives me crazy. He micromanages everything and never lets me work on my own. He treats me like a child.
• My colleague takes forever to get me her part of a project. And then she’s always making revisions, messing up what I already spent time doing.
• I can’t stand working with him. He thinks his ideas are the only ones that have merit.

These crazy-making people are perfectionists. You may think that a perfectionist is someone who likes things to be neat and orderly, but there’s much more to it than that.

Read this entire article at SUCCESS.com
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I adore the good folks at Fox 32 and Good Day Chicago!

I’ve been doing a recurring segment on there about many popular topics and issues. This one was very special as we talked about my new book Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love.

Better Than Perfect is available at major online book retailers (i.e. Amazon, Barnes & Noble) and at local bookstores nationwide. BTP recently made Amazon’s Bestseller list! Get a copy today for yourself or someone you love.

You should also take my Are You a Perfectionist? Quiz. I’ll send you personalized results and a link to download my ebook 10 Ways Perfectionism May be Poisoning Your Life.

Thanks so much for taking this journey with me!

-E