Tune in tonight as I join host Bonnie D. Graham to talk about overcoming perfectionism and my upcoming book Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love.
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Tension is good???
Maybe for bridges, but for we humans, stress can be a corrosive and destructive force. Sure stress is common and, in my practice, I help people is confront and deal with stress daily.
But…not all stress is created equal and we all receive stress differently. They way stress affects us is not about right or wrong. Just different.
My friends at SELF recently published a “Stress Test.” I joined Editor, Joyce Chang and the TODAY hosts to give some expert insight and tips. Enjoy!
My new book Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love! is being printed as I write this!
(Click the link to reserve your copy!)
I wanted an awesomely fun video trailer, so I contacted my good friend (former Oprah “Super-Producer”) Candi Carter for help. Her team put together this fantastic package and I’m LOVE it! Watch it for a peek into the pages of this work that I am very proud of. As you can see, I had LOADS OF FUN!
Watch it. Share it. Buy it!
Thanks for much for joining me on this journey to be BETTER THAN PERFECT!
It is frequently OK to be selfish…
Yes I said it and more in this piece in Women’s Health.
Many of you are very giving. You listen to your friends, and take care of them, but you don’t want to burden them with your issues. But it’s not being a burden—it’s a really essential thing to do, and not just so you get sound advice. It’s important because you get the help you need, whether it be emotional support or tangible support, but it’s also helpful for a relationship.
When a relationship is one-sided and you’re constantly giving and the other person is constantly taking without the reciprocal, that’s not a true relationship. When you allow the help to go both ways, you’re actually forming a deeper, healthier relationship with that person.
Here are the 4 Times is short form:
1) When you need help
2) Between the sheets
3) After work hours
4) When you’re craving ‘Alone Time’
Read the full article to get more of my insights and tips to balance your vital relationships. 4 Times It’s OK to be Selfish
In the wake of one of the worst economic downturns in history, many Americans are still dealing with the ravages of unemployment.
Relationships and families are particularly vulnerable during financial hardship. Some folks mistakenly think that it will all get better once I land another job. Well…maybe…but too often that isn’t the case. Particularly with extended layoffs. Sadly many couples and families are grossly damaged. In my latest Fox Chicago segment, I talk about ways to move through desperate times and beat down unemployment blues. Take a look and let me know ways you are surviving!
For the past 5 years, I have traveled around this incredible world on a quest to help people be happier.
And I came to realize that one of the biggest obstacles to happiness, to creating the life you want is, well, you. Not because people are lazy or destined to be unhappy, but rather because the same mechanism many were using to try to be happier was actually adding to their stress and discontent. I saw this in the audiences I spoke to, the clients who I coached and even in the media personnel who were interviewing me for national TV shows. Frankly, I saw it in myself.
The culprit is perfectionism – an all-or-nothing mindset that things had to be perfect or else… You know. Things like…
I had one cookie and messed up my diet. Might was well eat the entire plate.
I might not get the job promotion, so why bother going for it
My last relationship was a failure, so I am destined to be alone forever.
My kids were late to school today. I am a complete failure as a parent.
My partner did not do the dishes- obviously he doesn’t care about me.
My website isn’t perfect, so I am not going to even tell people about my new business.
This perfectionism prevents positivity, productivity and profitability. And it needs to be stopped!
My next book Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love teaches how we can continue to strive for excellence while at the same time not beating ourselves up, avoiding situations or feeling like you are falling short. It will help you create the life you truly want to live: happiness, health, strong relationships, success without the stress of “needing” to be perfect.
The book is just the tip of the iceberg. We are going on a journey! A journey to ditch perfectionism and live free. I’ll walk with you each step of the way and provide advice, great tools and a thriving community to aid your personal trek. Watch the video above for more insights and let’s get ready to be Better Than Perfect!
I am SO excited!
The Amazon pre order page for my latest book Better Than Perfect: 7 Strategies to Crush Your Inner Critic and Create a Life You Love! is LIVE!!!
Perfectionists exist in every walk of life. While outwardly they appear to be very accomplished, they are often unhappy and unfulfilled. Perfectionists strive toward unattainable goals, and their behaviors can wreak havoc on both their physical health and their psychological well-being.
Better Than Perfect offers step-by-step instructions for perfectionists to find balance and freedom. I define perfectionism in easy-to-understand terms, offer simple assessment tools, and share case studies of from my practice. I also include practical exercises and suggestions for behavioral changes, specifically 7 ways to overcome perfectionism that range from choosing passion over perfection to remembering you’re more than what you do.
The book is just our starting point. I’m inviting you to go on a a sustained journey with me to overcome perfectionism, silence our inner critics and life a full and happy life! Coming??? Start here:
Moms are powerful individuals. You don’t need to be perfect. Just give your children and YOURSELF unconditional love. That is BETTER THAN PERFECT!
Wow! Kevin Durant is not only the MVP of the NBA, he’s an MVP in life!
The love and appreciation he shows for his mom at one of his most important moments is genuine, beautiful and tear-jerking. Here are some things we can learn from Kevin’s speech:
1) The past does not dictate your future
2) When you believe in yourself and preserve, anything is possible
3) You don’t need to have had a perfect childhood to live a Better Than Perfect Life
4) Moms are powerful individuals. And, as a mom, you don’t need to be perfect. Just give your children and YOURSELF unconditional love
Enjoy this poignant video and…HAPPY MOTHERS DAY!!!
Burning the midnight oil could burn years off your life!
60 million Americans suffer from insomnia. While there are folks who have physical ailments that cause them to toss and turn, too many of us are up all night by choice.
I know you want to get ahead at work and, trust me, I’ve had a few Netflix binge watching nights…but you NEED to go to bed.
Seriously…GO TO BED!!!
Studies show that lack of sleep promotes memory loss, weight gain and could take years off your life!
Watch my latest Fox Chicago segment and get tips on getting your Zzz’s!
It was so awesome to spend time with Dr. Oz and his audience!
Watch the segment for some quick tips and inspiration. I also wrote an article for DrOz.com. Read the excerpt below; then click the link to the full article!
Why Calm is the New Happy
As we evolve in our lives, calm is the new happy that we strive for. When we were younger, the idea of going out all night might have excited us. Now, I often see my clients desire to have calm in their lives: a Saturday night dinner with friends or a relaxing Sunday afternoon where they might even be able to read that pile of magazines they have been wanting to get to. Many dream about spa days rather than a crazy night of partying.
The high level of stress in our lives also contributes to this desire for calm. Because many do not get calm moments during the day, stress levels creep up as the day progresses. Here are a few selected tips to achieve a little more calmness in your life. I explain each of them in the full article on Dr. Oz.com
Blow bubbles! (Seriously!)
Take 5; Get Moving!
Hug a loved one!
Focus on gratitude
Read ‘Why Calm is the New Happy’ at Dr. Oz.com