Taking time for yourself is a very important step to what I call True Success - feeling compressive satisfaction in your psychological well-being, physical health, relationships, career or calling, finances, fun and spiritual health.
In essence, being the best you possible and actually enjoying it.
I recently was interviewed by Alison Goldman for an article about this topic in Women’s Health Magazine. In it, I discussed the importance of prioritizing you. Not at the expense of others, but rather at the benefit to others.
Instead of calling this being selfish, which infers that you focus on yourself without regard for others, we referred to this concept as “selfitizing” – prioritizing yourself in addition to others.
Maybe you feel guilty about taking time out for yourself to go for a walk when you could be doing something for others (like making dinner for the family), or when you take a few hours of alone time to destress.
Here is my advice to you: Drop the perfectionism; it is not an all-or-nothing proposal. Just because you prioritize time for yourself does not mean you will suddenly become an egocentric, narcissistic jerk.
In fact, taking time out will can reduce your stress, boost your happiness and positively impact your health, all of which can have powerful benefits to your work and relationships.
In effect, taking time for yourself helps those around you, too!
One client wanted to go to yoga after work, but felt pulled to get home every afternoon as soon as she could. When she gave herself permission to go to a yoga class even just once a week, she noticed a huge change in how positively she interacted with her family.
An executive client found that riding his Harley helped him destress, but his wife complained each time he took off. After speaking with her about why it was important, he took 2 hours each weekend to ride his Hog. After two weeks, his wife was excited for him to go, knowing how he would return much happier and more engaged with the family.
How about you? Where else do you selfitize? Where would you like to selfitize?
Share with us how you Selfitize?